Is He “The One”? Here Are 10 Signs You’re Dating The Man You Should Marry

At a certain point in a romantic relationship, we begin to shift our focus to the future — beyond whether or not we’ll continue dating them, and toward whether or not we could see ourselves marrying them one day.

Marriage is an incredibly significant commitment to make, which is part of why we see fewer and fewer people choosing to get married. It’s not a decision we can take lightly, or even one we can make based on love alone; ultimately, being in love with someone isn’t enough of a “sign” that we should stay with them forever.

Having mutual love and attraction for one another is obviously a key ingredient in a happy marriage, but there’s so much more we have to take into account before we take the plunge and make what’s supposed to be a lifelong promise to stay committed to each other.

So what are the signs that the man we’re dating is the man we should marry?

1. You Can Recover from Fights

It’s not having zero fights that makes a relationship healthy (in fact, it’s actually good for us to have disagreements with our boyfriend), but how we respond to our fights and if we’re able to fight healthily. Fights that devolve into name-calling, character assassination, and periods of the silent treatment or constant bickering don’t point to a happy future.

Ultimately, our disagreements should lead us to a deeper understanding of each other’s needs and opinions, and making up should be more important to us than “winning.” If we’ve found that we can come back from fights with him, that’s a good sign.