How To Instantly Be In The Top 10% In A Culture With No Game

The aforementioned can be chalked up to the fact that vast multitudes of people have no game; otherwise, they wouldn’t find themselves in a revolving door of unloving, unattached, and perpetually fleeting relationships. 

What exactly is game, though? 

Game refers to having a way with men or women that makes you very desirable, attractive, and compelling. And if you play the game right, it also makes you irresistible to the opposite sex. 

Gen Z refers to game as “rizz,” which is short for charisma: "Rizz" is a slang term often used to describe someone's ability to flirt and be charming, especially for their verbal communication while pursuing a romantic interest. If someone has ‘rizz,’ they are often considered attractive or alluring because of their charismatic way of communicating. That may still be true even if you do not find that person attractive.”

As a relationship coach, I can attest to the fact that people are severely lacking in both verbal and non-verbal communication skills as described above. Charisma is absent in people across the board. Having a memorable and stirring interaction with a person is akin to finding a needle in a haystack. And this causes people to lose interest, oftentimes immediately. When people can’t feel something for you through verbal and non-verbal communication, they can’t connect with you. And very soon, they ghost.

So how can you cultivate game, or “rizz,” as it's called today? And what can you do starting this very moment to be in the top 10% of people who can command attention and interest in the opposite sex and sustain it?

Allow More Time and Space Between Texts

Human beings are ill-equipped to thrive romantically in today’s instant gratification and dopamine culture brought on by modern technology. 

An integral part of my coaching and the relationship advice I publish both on my blog and social media centers around allowing much more time and space in between texts. 

There’s a bit of pushback on these methods from singles who insist, “If I don’t text them back right away and let them know I’m interested, they will lose interest in me.”

This is false. In fact, just by virtue of a person spacing out texts, while in between dialing up the “rizz” in a titillating back-and-forth conversation, people get very easily hooked. It happens every time with my clients. There is such a tremendous absence of this needed space in communication between people, and as a result, many have become accustomed to taking people for granted.