How To Find A Good Man With This 4-Step Approach
I firmly believe there are good men out there. The question is: Where are they? How can we find them? And some might add: Why are they hiding?
It’s true that love is likely to happen when we’re not paying attention or simply not thinking about it, but I would argue that it’s when we focus on the right things that a good man is more likely to come around. So without further ado, here is a four-step guide to creating an environment in which a good man may appear.
Make Sure You Have the Right Mindset
Before you venture into the wild, you must be well prepared and have the right attitude. It would be pointless to find a good man but be unable to recognize him or not be ready for a healthy relationship, so spend some time laying the groundwork.
Your attitude and overall disposition are the first things everyone notices about you, so dedicate some alone time to self-care and give yourself honest validation. Being overly concerned with how others perceive you can hold you back from embracing your most authentic self, and being at peace with yourself is crucial in this process. Feeling strong in your sense of self will also prevent you from getting stuck in dead-end romantic situations.
Self-care in this situation is not only about oiling your hair and applying face masks but about addressing past hurts and mistakes. It can be a difficult process, but it’s definitely a rewarding one! Go into detail identifying what personal patterns may be holding you back. Think back to every breakup and consider your part in the dissolution of the relationship. It’s not about blaming the breakup on you or on him but about reflecting on how you handled it or on what exactly made things not work. This will give you valuable insight into your own attachment style and raise awareness of what may require some healing. Remember that you are looking for a flesh and bone man, not a fictitious prince, so recognize that your own shortcomings as well as his will be part of the relationship.