He’s Just Not That Into You: 15 Ways To Tell It’s Time For You To Move On
Is he playing hard to get, or is he just not all that interested in you?
The early days of dating are sort of like a dance – attraction is expressed by one person, and the other moves in response, showing the attraction is mutual. The dance goes back and forth between us and the object of our affection, each of us pulling different moves to show the other how interested we are.
But sometimes, one of us plays hard to get. One person feigns aloofness by taking a while to text back or alternating between enthusiasm and distance. Playing hard to get is, of course, a tactic to keep the other guessing and thus more invested in achieving the outcome they desire.
And then, there are those times when the line between playing hard to get and playing… not at all is blurred – the times when we can’t tell if he’s just being coy or isn’t actually interested in us at all. How many of us have had a crush like Ginnifer Goodwin’s in He’s Just Not That Into You, where we’re so desperate to believe someone likes us back that we’re willing to ignore blatant signs that, well, he’s just not that into us?