9 Thought-Provoking Questions To Ask Your Boyfriend To Discover How He Sees The World
Intellectual compatibility is an extremely important though often overlooked aspect of any relationship. It means that you both have strong fundamental beliefs, values, and morals.
You both passionately stand by your ideals, but are simultaneously seeking to fine-tune them and widen your view of the world. Intellectual compatibility is a bond that goes beyond superficial attraction, one that will stand the test of distance and time.
Intellectually compatible people don’t necessarily have the same beliefs or agree on everything, but their viewpoints complement and play off each other. Just like in any relationship, the sum is greater than its parts. Together, your viewpoints are more complete and ultimately more well-rounded. The key is not to be competitive, but to keep an open mind, to discuss, learn, and build off each other’s ideas. Seek to understand the other person’s perspective and why they think the way they do. True intellectuals see the thoughts and ideas of their loved one’s mind as an element of attraction. In this way, we can build meaningful and long-lasting relationships by getting to know each other on a higher intellectual level.
Intellectual Conversation
The greatest way to strengthen the intellectual connection is to engage in thought-provoking, philosophical conversation. Especially in times when we can’t be with our boyfriend physically, like in a long-distance relationship, using your intellect is the perfect way to feel closer to someone. Likewise, once you have gotten to the point where you know facts about someone personally, the key to continuing to cultivate your relationship is to have meaningful conversations, to discuss your thoughts and opinions about complex subjects. You can still get to know each other better past the initial stages of a relationship.
Intellectually compatible people don’t necessarily agree on everything, but their viewpoints complement each other.
Whether a boyfriend, a husband, or even a guy friend, men have different and sometimes eye-opening perspectives. And, at the end of the day, there is nothing a man likes more than being asked his opinion about a thought-provoking issue. He wants to share his thoughts, his ideas, his mind with you. The same goes for you – your insights and viewpoints will be sure to intrigue your boyfriend.
My boyfriend and I live across the country from each other, but we were still able to go miles relationship-wise over a month-long college Christmas break even though we were miles apart. So, I’ve included some questions about some of the best topics we discussed, often talking late into the night until our phones died. These questions are not necessarily about yourselves personally, but rather about how you view the world. By asking them, in a way, you can glimpse the world through the other’s eyes.
1. Which five people had the greatest effect on the course of history?
Prophets, kings, military strategists, conquerors, inventors, philosophers… So many people have left their mark and altered the course of history, but who most of all? Without which five of these people would the world be most different? If this particular person had not existed, would someone else have filled a similar role instead?